by Joe B., Care Partner of 8 years, and Matthew Estrade
Well-meaning friends and family members would tell him, “Joe, If you need anything, please call us and let us know.”
The thing is that care partners need help but may not know a) where to begin, b) what you mean by “anything,” c) are just tired of making decisions, or d) don’t want to have to ask.
One of Joe’s wife’s dear friends would just come over and read books to her while sitting on the floor. It was a huge blessing and relief to Joe. He stayed home and enjoyed the break, watching them enjoy. It broke the isolation.
I asked Joe to help us create a list of things that a care partner’s network of family and friends could offer. We hope that this list will inspire those who are able to be proactive in offering help, rather than saying the proverbial “Call me if you need something.” If you are a care partner reading this, consider sharing and/or this may give you some ideas of what to ask for.
“I’m going grocery shopping, make a list and I’ll pick up what you need”
“Tell me when your doctor’s/dentist’s appointment is and I will sit with ____.”
“Johnny, my son, is coming over to cut your grass, trim, etc.”
“I’m great at folding clothes, I’ll come over twice a week and do your laundry.”
“If you have any bills to pay in town, I’m going out on Wednesday and will be happy to do that for you.”
“Any prescriptions you need to pick up, I will do that for you.”
“I’m free all week, if you want to go on errands let me know which day.”
“Don’t prepare lunch tomorrow, I’m bringing it to you.”
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